Christmas Savings

The bank was in what had once been an old fish and chips restaurant. I remembered eating there and trying to like the food because I loved how the windows looked as if they belonged on the captain's quarters of a pirate ship.  The panes were small, with a yellow cast to them, and I used to pretend like I was on the ocean whenever we ate there.

But now it was a bank, and we stopped in after school once a week for Mom to deposit money in her Christmas savings account.  I hated that.  I was too little to wait in the car, and the inside of the building no longer looked like a pirate mess hall with heavy wooden tables and chairs.  It was just a regular old bank.  Boring except for the windows, but even they weren't the same.

Mom was diligent about putting money in the Christmas savings.  She opened it in the summer and paid on it regularly.  I'm not sure where she got the money because she wasn't working at the time.  Probably it came out of the grocery money or maybe my dad slipped her a $10 bill every week.  Regardless, every week, we'd stop at the bank that used to be a fish and chips restaurant and make a deposit.

Once she started working at OLC, she opened Christmas savings for my sisters and me.  At the end of the payment period, right around Thanksgiving, we'd each get a sweet $25 to use to buy presents for our loved ones.  That seemed like a ton of money to us back in the day.

I would try to budget out how much to spend on each person and found out that $25 didn't go very far once I got down to it.  I figured Mom and Dad deserved the best presents, so I'd allot $5 each for them.  Then there were my sisters at $2.50 each, my grandma and whichever cousin I drew for the gift exchange at Granny's house, and if there was anything left, something for my friends.

My dad was easy.  Every year, all he asked for was "shorts (boxers), shirts (undershirts), and socks (Gold Toe, either blue, brown, or black).  Occasionally, he'd ask for a tie, but Mom would have to go in on that with us, so we usually stuck to the usual, the difference being who had to give Dad underwear that year.  I can remember standing in the Men's Department at Bacon's in Shively agonizing over which pair of socks to get Dad.  The wall was filled with all shades of blues, browns and blacks.  Thin or thick?  What about a pattern this year?  Nothing crazy, just tone on tone, but maybe a dot or a different weave???  No, just the usual.  Gold Toe, blue, brown, or black.  If they were on sale, we could get two or three pair for $5.  It was always a score when that happened.  "Three pair of socks!  Yes!"

The shorts and shirts were standard Hanes or Fruit of the Loom, again whatever was on sale.  And always white, always boxers, always crew necks.  Never plaids or briefs or v-necks.  Same ol', same ol'.  So getting to be the one who got to buy Dad socks was something!  At least you had a choice.  Regardless, we took pride in wrapping everything as nicely as we could, and when he opened each one, Dad would say, "Shorts!  Just what I needed!  Thank you!" like he was thrilled to get new underwear for Christmas.

Mom was harder to buy for.  We always wanted to get her something special, but what can you get special for $5?  I remember going to the Ladies' Department, again at Bacon's, and looking at house slippers, which was something she regularly got.  They would max out my budget and then some, but they were so soft and new, in pinks and powder blues with roses embroidered across the foot...Mom's slippers were always worn and even washing couldn't take the dirt out after awhile.  One of us usually got her a pair of slippers, nothing fancy though.  Just regular Dearfoams.  Terrycloth mostly.  Closed toe.  Anything else was too hot.

I can remember going up to Otto Drugs and buying Mom a bottle of Oil of Olay or a necklace from the jewelry counter.  One year, she had a Home Interiors party, and there was an alabaster owl that was in my budget.  I was determined to get it.  I sidled up to the party rep and whispered what I wanted to do.  She promised to help me and keep it secret from Mom.  I handed over the $4 that the owl cost and waited for what seemed like forever for it to come.  I don't know how she did it.  My guess is that she told Mom of my plan, and Mom played dumb, but I got the owl and hid it under my bed until Christmas morning.  When she finally opened it, Mom was so surprised.  "How did you get this without me knowing?" she asked.  And I'm fairly positive it did not fit with any of her home decor, but that owl sat on the end table in the living room for years.  She even wrote a little story about it, and when we cleaned Dad's house out, I brought it home to mine.

My sisters would get gloves or a jewelry box or some such trinket. My grandma...Rose Silk lotion. My friends would usually get a LifeSavers candy book (tangerine, please) or a giant candy cane.  In a good year, they would score a one-pound Hershey's candy bar.  Again, Otto Drugs was the place to shop.

All of this to say that the whole process of saving the money (although it wasn't mine to start with), planning a budget, and buying presents for family and friends was such a thrill.  It was challenging for me to figure out how to make it work to get something for everyone, and I felt so smart when I was able to do it.

And I know my parents and my grandma could have bought their own underwear, slippers, or lotion, but it didn't matter to them what they got as long as we made the effort to pick it out.  It was the process not the present, and I never, ever felt like Mom or Dad was disappointed in what I had given them for Christmas.

I think that is lost today.  We get so wrapped up in the gift that we forget the giving behind it.  This Christmas, I hope we can all remember the thrill of giving a new pair of Gold Toe socks or a beautiful alabaster owl.